The holidays are quickly approaching, and many North Carolina families are trying to make the most of their time with their children. When you split time with your ex-spouse, the stress and hurt feelings can sap your energy and emotions when you do see your kids.
Here are some tips to help you have a wonderful holiday season.
Psychology Today recommends not negating your own negative feelings about the spouse, but recognizing you still have a job to do raising your joint children. If you change the way you view the relationship to that of more of a business one, you are less likely to let those negative emotions impact your relationship with your children and their other parent.
Focus instead on getting the logistical details out of the way ahead of time, so everyone is on the same page. Keep communication brief and to the point. Work together to coordinate gifts to avoid duplication and communicate any travel plans ahead of time.
One way to get the most out of the holiday season especially if you are recently separated or divorced is to create new traditions. Maybe if you always had a fake tree, you spend the time this year to pick out a real tree together. Keeping these new traditions year after year can help you bond with your children in a fun way that keeps them looking forward to the time spent with you.
Remember that you are not in competition with your ex-spouse. This helps take the stress off you to give your children everything their other parent does this season. You can have a meaningful and enjoyable holiday season without competing materially for their love.
Show them the ways the holidays are important to you by doing fun, creative things with them. This is a great time to have some time focused on being together that is often missing throughout the year due to conflicting schedules.