In previous times, it was held that in the event of a divorce young children were better off in the primary care of their mother.This is no longer the case in the modern court. In fact, the general modern consensus is that children are better off in the care of both of their parents in as equal of a fashion as possible, even if those parents no longer cohabitate. The legal definition of this is co-parenting, and it is the most popular form of custody in the modern era. While this may be difficult, there are certain steps you can take to make co-parenting easier on you and your ex-spouse. According to Fatherhood.gov, healthy co-parenting starts with a focus on the kids.

Particularly if you have gone through a tumultuous divorce, it is easy to lose sight of what is most important work of parenting is concerned: the welfare of the children. It is advantageous to take a businesslike approach to co-parenting, even if you do not have a good relationship with your former spouse. If both of you can at least agree to keep the focus on the kids and not to discuss anything else between the two of you, the process will go much smoother.

Keeping communication as neutral as possible is important. If you are having a hard time dealing with neutral communication (or your ex-spouse likes to provoke you), you may find that communication through writing is more effective. It is entirely appropriate to keep all conversation between the two of you on email to keep the relationship businesslike.